Some Views On Marriage

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138945226781.jpgLove is not a commodity; the real thing cannot be bought, sold, traded or stolen. It is an act of the will, a turning of the emotions, a change in the climate of the personality. When a husband or wife is “stolen” by another person, that husband or wife was already ripe for the stealing, was already predisposed toward a new partner. The”love bandit”was only taking what was waiting to be taken, what wanted to be taken.

We tend to treat persons like goods. We even speak of the children “belonging” to their parents. But nobody “belongs” to anyone else. Each person belongs to himself, and to God. Children are entrusted to their parents, and if their parents do not treat them properly, the state has a right to remove them from their parents’ trusteeship.

Most of us, when young, had the experience of a sweetheart being taken from us by somebody more attractive and more appealing. At the time, we may have resented this intruder—but as we grew older, we recognized that the sweetheart had never been ours to begin with. It was not the intruder that “caused” the break, but the lack of a real relationship.

On the surface, many marriages seem to break up because of a “third party“. This is, however, a psychological illusion. The other woman or the other man merely serves as a pretext for dissolving a marriage that had already lost its essential integrity.

Nothing is more futile and more self-defeating than the bitterness of spurned love, the vengeful feeling that someone else has “come between” oneself and a beloved. This is always a distortion of reality, for people are not the captives or victims of others—they are free agents, working out their own destinies for good or for ill.

But the rejected lover or mate cannot afford to believe that his beloved has freely turned away from him— and so he ascribes sinister or magical properties to the interloper. He calls him a hypnotist or a thief or a home-breaker. In the vast majority of cases, however, when a home is broken, the breaking has begun long before any “third party” has appeared on the scene.

The same to bisexual marriage, Many people worry that after they have a threesome relationship, they will have a crisis in their marriage. I think this is a common misconception. This is a manifestation of not being confident in your own marriage.

What is it with our need to fast-track relationships? Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunningclarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself.

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Is It Normal To Not Want To Come Out?

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tumblr_ptdgzoGo0r1t480bc_1280We all know that June is a proud month. Many people choose to come out to their friends and family in June. That amazing moment when you tell someone you are bisexual and they say me too. We all know how difficult it is to meet someone who is as sexually oriented as you, and that person is your good friend. It is clear that threesome is getting more and more popular, But not all bisexuals can find their favorite date. Not to mention the threesome relationship. We should know that as a bisexual woman, It doesn’t mean you can’t marry a man. It doesn’t mean you have to have a threesome relationship. And if you marry a man, it doesn’t mean you are not bisexual. What I want to say is that who you marry is not related to your bisexual sexual orientation. And you are bisexual, not means you must come out to everyone.

1.But not everyone likes others to know their sexual orientation. Not because of timidity, weakness. Just think that sexual orientation is your own private thing, why do you have to make everyone know. The reason many people come out is that it is a stressful thing to carry a secret life. People want to express their thoughts and depressed emotions. But for some people, this is not a secret. It is just a sexual orientation of oneself. Just like some people have 10 fingers, some people have 11 fingers. The only difference is that the fingers are visible. The sexual orientation is invisible.

2.They are afraid of being laughed at by others, discriminating and scolding. Although we always say that just be ourselves, don’t care too much about other people’s eyes and arguments, but in real life, being misunderstood by others is really annoying. Although bisexuality has been recognized and supported by many people, it has not been recognized and protected from a legal point of view in many places. Especially threesome, many people associate threesome with one night stand.

3.If you say your own sexual orientation to your family or friends, there will be many changes in your future life. Many people are not willing to deal with these troubles, so they would rather not say it. Such as, People will ask, do you like more men or more women? Do you like threesome?

So it’s very normal to not want to come out. We should understand them, everyone is living in their own circle, it is best not to bother them. Come out or not, it’s their right. Just do what will make you happiest in your situation. Best of luck with everything! When you feel ready, come out, or don’t, it’s up to you.